"you will be married using our traditions/culture!"
exclaims my father, mother, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters
partner, spouse, society, church,
professional associations
the exclamation continues
ladies, Gents, young men, eat a specific part of meat,
they should drink a specific type of drink.
but I wounder what happens if I eat ribs
meant for a certain age group?
what will or not happen if
I throw a walking stick
in memory of my father into his grave.
They tell me this must at all time be avoided
because of fear of the unknown
if something is done or not done.
to some this is their encounter
and as such definition of culture.
but culture ought to
make people to feel appreciated,
happy, eat together
have sense of belonging,
get to know each other,
have joy in the encounter,
appreciate diversity cultures
such as naming systems.
the fear of the unknown is based
on certain beliefs that culture is static
but there are numerous nuances
demonstrating dynamism of culture
brought about by many human relations such as
marriage between spouses from different cultures
or different countries, or different religions
or different classes, or even different anything
that exclamation is sometimes
couched as advise from families members
advise from church members
but in the face of many dehumanizing practices
the role of the said adviser is watered down
in place of extracting any gain
made by human beings.
advise that is in a fire place
as opposed to hierarchical systems
which is given authority by
the fear of the unknown.
in the current dispensation
fireside chats no longer tell us
why something was done and
why it may not work presently.
fireside chats are longer metaphors for
transfer of wisdom
but at the heart of them are transactions
what values have we infused into culture
what do our archives tell us
how can we re-imagine new forms and ways
for instance, can we give new meaning to
four ululations
and five ululations
based on the social cultural context
guided by the basis of the distinctions.
due to migrations cultures
have continued to interact and learn from each other
we have technology that either assists us in determining culture
we are called upon to used reason
to determine the future
in a creative way
based on the concept of love
conviviality, mutuality
solidarity.